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Prayer - A Conversation of Friends  

Stephen UmMarch 24, 2010 

Now Jesus was praying in a certain place, and when he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John taught his disciples.” 2 And he said to them, “When you pray, say: “Father, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come. 3 Give us each day our daily bread, nd forgive us our sins, for we ourselves forgive everyone who is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation.” 5 And he said to them, “Which of you who has a friend will go to him at midnight and say to him, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves, 6 for a friend of mine has arrived on a journey, and I have nothing to set before him’; 7 and he will answer from within, ‘Do not bother me; the door is now shut, and my children are with me in bed. I cannot get up and give you anything’? 8 I tell you, though he will not get up and give him anything because he is his friend, yet because of his impudence he will rise and give him whatever he needs. 9 And I tell you, ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. 11 What father among you, if his son asks for a fish, will instead of a fish give him a serpent; 12 or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? 13 If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”

- Luke 11:1:13

Although there are specific ways we ought to pray, when the Bible talks about prayer, it does not primarily emphasize a method or strategy but more about how to commune with a living God. The psalms are immensely helpful in this sense since there are certain non-negotiable essentials we need to incorporate into our prayers which are important. But at the foundation or the heart of prayer, we need to understand that prayer itself is not the ultimate goal of the Christian life. Prayer is but a means to bring the Christian to God, in other words, prayer ought to be a practice of grace that God allows an individual to utilize in order to develop intimacy with him. 

What we often times find is that prayer is not just a means of grace which Christians or religious people use, but it is a vehicle which everyone uses, whether you have a personal or impersonal relationship with some sort of immaterial or material source or force. Therefore, all people have a relationship with this mode of communication, even though they might not think of it in this way. And so everyone prays, to either a personal being or impersonal things. The question is, is that relationship or the object of one’s own affections reliable? Is he alive? Is it real? Is it personal? And that is what the Bible is trying to teach. If a person wants to know God or if he wants to know the Gospel, then he’ll find it in prayer. Often times we are surprised, when we listen to a sermon series on prayer, to learn more about the doctrine of God than the various modes of praying. Because if an individual understands who God is and how he has revealed himself through the Scriptures and through history then he will be compelled to pray, joyfully and not begrudgingly. His affections will be stirred in such a way that he will not merely say “this is my duty,” but that “this is my joy and my delight.” His heart will be moved to the presence of God.  

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